My husband and I know that for us to have a good relationship, we need to understand each other's needs and expectations. Dr. James Dobson wrote a wonderful book -- explaining women called What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Women. Here are a few additions -- especially for pastors.
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Love Me. The apostle Paul wrote, "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church" (Ephesians 5:25). I need to know I am more important to my husband than board meetings and men's gym night. I appreciate Mark making time to spend with me, doing things we can enjoy together.
Love Our Family. There are many ministers, but our kids have only one dad, and they need him to make time too. Every morning Mark drives our children to school, giving them a chance to talk, laugh and have a few minutes of undivided attention from Dad.
Know My Limits. Contrary to popular belief, pastor's wives are not auditioning for the role of Superwoman. Mark and I try to set goals and priorities together and then work to achieve them. We pray before committing to anything to make sure God is leading us more than our own desires. We've learned we can say no to a certain task and God could supply the right person.
Protect Me -- physically, spiritually, emotionally. When our ministry began, deacons' wives would sometimes ask me about some juicy tidbit of information their husbands had told them after a meeting. The other wives were shocked to realize I had no clue as to what they were talking about. It wasn't that Mark was leaving me out; he was protecting me.
Source: Parsonage.org
Taken from Pastor's Family Bulletin, March 1999.
Article copyright © 2003, Barbara Milioni.
Barbara Milioni is a pastor's wife with four children, and lives in Albion, Mich.
